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Thought Series : Raising a HAPPIE Toddler

Day 1

This week, we’re focusing on the most basic and fundamental human need : Health / Physical well-being.

Note that I said ‘human’ need, and not just ‘toddler’ need.

After caring for our infant for a year, we have become experts in judging and providing for our child’s physical needs like hunger, thirst, sleep, sickness, teething, need to pee/ poop, need to be clean after pee/poop … an endless list.

Our expertise continued even as our infant turned into a toddler, and we can still effortlessly identify and fulfill their physical needs.

But, during the 1 year of infancy, we also progressively lost the ability to sense & care for our OWN physical needs –

  • Losing sleep for several nights back to back
  • Skipping meals to make space for our kids needs, needs of everyone else in the family, office work and household chores
  • ME-time is non-existent
  • Working at full potential even during our own sickness & weakness.

These are just a few scenarios where we’ve so easily forgotten to cater to our OWN need for PHYSICAL WELL-BEING, while ensuring that for our child and family members.

I know, we feel good about being able to do so much for our loved ones; but:

  • How many times have you felt sorry for being so self-sacrificial?
  • How many times have you missed your long-forgotten hobbies?
  • How many times have you wished you had some more time to yourself?
  • Worst of all, how many times have you lost it (because of stress / tiredness) and taken out your frustration on your child by yelling / hitting, and then feeling guilty about it?

Here’s what we need to remember :

When a needy person comes to us for help, can we help that person if our own pockets are empty?

When your child becomes clingy / throws a tantrum – that’s your child asking for help. But if you are completely drained mentally, physically & emotionally – will you be able to offer help to your child in a meaningful way?

THOUGHT for TODAY

  1. Are you WELL – physically / mentally / emotionally – everyday, so that you can cater to your child’s needs in your BEST capacity?
  2. If not, how do you think it’s affecting the way you care for your child, and deal with his/her needs?
  3. Tell us, ONE thing that you’d like to do – which takes only 15 mins – DAILY – that can help you stay WELL – physically, mentally, emotionally.

TOMORROW

How you can fulfill your child’s needs better – by making A HABIT of self-love and self-care – (Point 3 above), so that your child experiences the BEST of you – EVERYDAY!

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Hello & Welcome to my Thought Series on ‘Raising a HAPPIE Toddler’.

Starting today, we embark on a journey to understand our toddler’s unsaid needs and learn how to fulfill them consistently, in the best way possible.

All humans have a set of needs. As long as these needs are met, we feel content. However, if a crucial need remains unfulfilled for a reasonable period of time – we will SEEK to fulfil the need, by hook or by crook.

As parents, we never realized how our little baby who was content as long as his need for food, water, sleep, warmth (& a clean diaper) was met, turned into a little ‘human’, soon after her 1st birthday. We never realized how his needs expanded much beyond the physical realm. Well, even if we did, it was difficult to know for sure what our little tot was ‘SEEKING’.

This series is to help every parent here – understand your toddler’s unsaid needs, so that she does not have to SEEK them through negative / undesirable behavior.

Unmet needs lead to undesirable behavior.

As a Toddler Mom myself, I decided to delve deeper into understanding ‘UNIVERSAL HUMAN NEEDS’ and finally arrived at SIX of them.

Health | Attention (Connection) | Power | Predictability | Inclusion (Participation) | Evolution (Progress)

Fulfilling these needs consistently, makes a Toddler HAPPIE!

(I have seen that 1st hand)

How did I arrive at these SIX out of a massive list of documented ‘Universal Human Needs’?

  • These SIX are relevant to a Toddler’s life.
  • These SIX encompass several other smaller needs from the ‘Universal list’.
  • Parents report behavioral issues when one or more of these needs are unmet for reasonably long periods, often because they never realized the need.

Today, I want you to mull over this list of ‘UNIVERSAL HUMAN NEEDS’ – image below:

THOUGHT for TODAY

Do you think there are more needs from this list that are relevant for a toddler – other than:

Health | Attention (Connection) | Power | Predictability | Inclusion (Participation) | Evolution (Progress)

TOMORROW:

We begin with the 1st need : Health / Physical well being, and explore how it is relevant & valuable for both the parent & the child.

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